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While I’ve personally dated women across the racial spectrum, I’ve only had a handful of clients who ever expressed preferences for women of other races.
Then again, the demographics of my clients are probably a bit skewed towards upper-middle class white people.
Over the years here, there have been countless questions, comments, musings about whether or not someone should write a letter to their ex.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve contemplated that myself on a personal basis.
If you’re writing to say how hurt, angry, used, or whatever you feel – the chances are they already know it. It’s seldom (if ever) one person’s fault that things don’t work out.
I, myself, am fan of the The older I get the more I take responsibility for my actions and outcomes. I find relationship – even the painful or volatile ones. So whenever I process the pain, hurt, sadness, and anger I move onto gratitude and will often send a note to the ex thanking them for the time spent together. Sometimes it takes longer than others to get to that point!
Money quote: The researchers found that most women speed daters said yes (meaning they’d like to see a man again after the four-minute speed date) less often to men of another race than they did to men of their own race.
If it did result in reconciliation it seldom lasted long.
How would you feel if they asked you to never contact them again?
In any event, even if you do get a response it’s not really likely you’ll get the answers you’re looking for.
That said, I do tend to take time to “sit on it” before sending anything emotional like that now.
I do consider all the points above and make sure when I send something it’s from a positive, letting go frame-of-mind.